Now while you might well be wondering how one apparently small question could have such massive repercussions just bear in mind what this day means to the lovely lady in question. Most guys have never really given much thought to their future wedding but for many women it is a day they have pictured from their earliest memory. When you were scuffing your new school shoes chasing a ball your bride-to-be was already dreaming of her future Prince Charming (although she was probably picturing him wearing a cape rather than your favourite scruffy Converse and band T-shirt).
The Longest Day
It's an over-used phrase that it's the most special day in a girl's life but it's true. And what's more she expects it to hold the same significance for you. So while she's buying a newsagent’s entire stock of wedding magazines and showing you the 27 different ways she’s thinking of wearing her hair she’s hoping that thoughtful look on your face relates to your own ideas for the wedding rather than whether you’ll get to sneak out for a quick 18 holes this weekend rather than go to yet another wedding fair.
Oh yeah... and she'll be wanting to wear a dress that will cost the price of a small family car. And then never ever wear it again.
While you might be just as happy with a small (mercifully quick) ceremony and a party in a decent pub where you can still keep an eye on the scores she is planning the whole operation with military precision. At times it will feel more like you're planning to storm the beaches of Normandy rather than planning a wedding.
But never forget, all her determination to get things right is because she wants things to be perfect for you as well.
Losing the Plot
Communication is key. Despite your beloved now having turned into bridezilla, in the words of Rudyard Kipling you need to "keep your head when all about you are losing theirs".
She IS going to get stressed.
She IS going to get upset.
You WILL have arguments concerning the wedding.
All this is perfectly natural and doesn’t mean you love each other any less it just means you’re planning a wedding and researchers say this is one of the most stressful events in a persons’ life. Especially for the bride.
Playing Your Party
One of the biggest complaints brides have is that their husband-to-be doesn't seem to get involved enough or show enough interest.
You possibly don't care what colour the napkins should be or how many glasses each person should have but these details matter to her so make them important to you. And when she is freaking out over small details that don't seem to matter at all listen to her complaints, try and help and then gently bring her back down to planet earth.
It’s your big day too, it should reflect both of you so make sure you get involved (where you’re allowed) and add your own ideas to your big day.
The Last Word
Many brides like to have their say on the big day as well and bride’s speeches are becoming an increasingly common addition to traditional wedding receptions.
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